Boundaries are essential in any relationship, and even more so in a romantic setting. This is what keeps a couple from disrespecting each other. They also preserve individual identity and freedom of expression. The absence of limits gives way to insecurity, fear and unhappiness.
Moshe Ratson wrote in GoodTherapy, “When you give others the opportunity to make you feel bad about yourself, you are more likely to react negatively and try to reduce their power over you.” Take control of your own emotions, validate them and hold space for them. If your partner’s outburst of anger about not putting the dishes away made you feel hurt or angry, try not to deny it or push those feelings away. If your friend’s bad mood about something innocent you said makes you anxious, tell yourself that it’s okay to feel that way. There is no need to blame yourself for their inconsistent reactions.
Sometimes doing this on your own can be difficult, especially in the beginning. Ask a trusted friend for help. Let your partner, friend, or even boss know that you won’t tolerate certain types of behavior. They’re going to have to stop treating you recklessly and take responsibility for their own reactions.
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